Something happens in the world, causing a request to come in. We process that event and (might) send an emotional response back.
There's no authentication at all. Any person, any event can send a request.
Whether we send an emotional response, and which one we send are determined by our middleware. We can think of this as "which code runs" when specific requests come in. If it's code, we can refactor it.
Our emotional states impact our work. This may be obvious when you're going through a breakup. But the emotions you have every day also affect you, just not as obviously. Unprocessed emotions impact:
Feeling like you have your emotional house in order gives you a sense of power. That sense of power leads to:
All of this leads to a better, more satisfying work environment and career.
These areas all improve:
Over the years I have built up a toolkit of techniques to maintain awareness and understanding of yoru emotional state. They break down into four categories, in ascending levels of effectiveness and vulnerability.
🙂 Level 1: Conceptual Tools
😯 Level 2: On Your Own
😰 Level 3: With Someone Else
😱 Level 4: With a Group
These are new ways of thinking about emotions can can make them easier to deal with.
These are activites you can do by yourself to understand what's going on inside you.
These are activities you can do with others, they're more powerful than doing things on your own, but they require you to be vulnerable, and that can be scary.
More powerful yet, but also scarier. In this section I talk about my path to understanding my emotions through emotional experience workshops.
I talk about my experience with anger, having never felt safe to experss it from a very young age. During the workshop I learned how to do it safely, without huring anyone. I share some techniques that people can use.
I then talk about my emotional experience when my father died. I didn't have the tools to express my grief at the time, and that unexpressed feeling affected my work for the next 20 years.
“Crying doesn’t indicate you are weak, since birth it has always been a sign to indicate you are alive”
Every one of these tools is just a hack to get to this one place:
FEELING A FEELING
Not stopping it
Not analyzing it
Not denying it
Not indulging it
Just feeling it
People call these Soft Skills, but anyone who has done this kind of work will tell you they are Super Hard Skills